Companionship
Everyone yearns companionship. I suppose we can numb ourselves to the wanting and the desires of being appreciated by someone who will eventually only be all ours (in one way or another somehow). We can keep telling ourselves that we are independent, strong and willing to walk our battles alone. But really? I don’t know about everyone else, but this is my opinion when it comes to a hearty (all pun intended) emotional relationship – we want to be around the person when we want to be around the person (how often, though, varies from person to person). We want to feel needed and we want to be as close as we can with someone. I believe that is really what everyone wants.
Why we assume we think otherwise would usually be because we are afraid of being alone again, or cheated on, or deserted. Whatever is the keyword for a person when it comes to hurting, we avoid. Entirely if possible. And yet I don’t think we can ignore what we are all genetically programmed to do – be around someone we love, have a soulmate, be with that one person in the world who can turn it around and take away all your control and yet whom you can do the same (just that you don’t know it even till you die how much of them you actually control too).
We deny that we need anything emotionally attaching just so that we won’t ever have to deal with losing it.
Because as someone very wise once told me (he was referring to being vegetarian actually, but I’m sure it applies here too), “You don’t miss what you’ve never had.”
I guess what I’m trying to say is… Is there any wrong in being too attached to your other half even if they treat you completely wrong? I guess, it is kinda demeaning to yourself, but is there any wrong in loving someone imperfect. Disconcerting, yes. Uncomfortably unfair, yes. But was love meant to be measured with rulers, measuring cups, temperature scales?
Some people you love and they love you so much back. Some people you love and you feel like the biggest fool on the planet. And some people you love and they love you too, but in between the now and the finish, its a rollercoaster of ups and downs where in different aspects of life and love, people love in different unmeasurable, uncomparable ways. I am pretty convinced that the last option is the most commonly occuring. At different points in a relationship, one party will show more concern than the other. It’s not a game or anything. It’s just the way things are in life on Earth thanks to Newton. He discovered one hell of a theory that is definitely proven right. Every force has an equal and opposite reaction – one of the laws of motion. Applies to relationship too – a relationship is supposed to move places too right?
Coming from Miss Relationship Control Freak, this is pretty dumb, ironic and totally a slap in my own face to wake up and smell the cowshits… Meh. But ho hum!
Someone once told me that the power in all relationships lies with whoever cares less, and he was right. But power isn’t happiness, and i think that maybe happiness comes from caring more about people rather than less.
So as a control freak I must re-read inspirational quotes like this one to remind me about what I really want in life and how I should go about it. Being in control is about being in power too. Being in power is just about NOT being hurt, it really isn’t about being happy because the opposite of hurt isn’t happiness – it’s just being unhurt. Makes sense really. I love these quote people!
Anyway, I’ve been reading up about this theory called the “Prisoners Dilemma”. I like it. You should google it. I’ll blog about it in my next blog entry because I am fascinated by it. I’m so annoying I’m broadcasting it to all my friends when I go for lunch, dinner, supper. Every time I meet them I go on about Prisoners Dilemma. Haha.
Whatever. I don’t really know what I’m blogging about now. It was just a “ding dong” moment and then I lost the eureka part of it.
